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Husband who don’t go to church

In today’s marriage prep class, I hear a very good sharing from an old couple married for 47 years.  Unlike Protestant churches, especially the Chinese ones, the Catholic church does not forbid catholics marrying not catholics.  The wedding will be blessed by the church as long as they agree to raise the children as little catholics.  In wife of the old couple is a very typical religious old woman for all of her life.  She sharing is funny to listen, but the content is not very relevant, typical along the line of good faith helps bonding in marriage.

On the other hand, the husband’s sharing is very interesting and I find much connection with his story.  He was not a catholic when he was married, he never go to church many years into his marriage.  Like others in western culture, he appreciates Christian value, so he is happy seeing his kids go to church on Sundays.  Moreover he can enjoy some quiet time of his own when the wife and the kids are away in church.  Things changes when the kids grow into teenagers, start getting rebellious and stop going to church with mom.  He figured that he can’t force the kid go to church if he doesn’t go to church himself.  He calculated it will be only a few more years before the kids turns into adult and move away, so he won’t have to suffer the boredom of church for long.  In order for the kids grow up with good value, he set an example himself and start going to church.  After being many years of non-Christian, he finally accept the faith and baptized as a Catholic.

The moral of the story is that his wife never force him go to church, she just let God do the work.  Couples have different faith can live a happy marriage, going to church together or not is irrelevant.  God always has his plan, it could be better for them in those years letting the husband escape from church.  When the time comes, things will happen on its own.  I don’t mind going to church, I will probably do the same thing as the husband to force my kids to go to church.  However, I want to retain my right to doze off on boring priests.  After all, it is not my fault falling asleep, why can’t the priest talks more interesting?

3 comments to Husband who don’t go to church

  • trishama

    From what I see that Horace dozes off when the topics get ‘theological’~

    But it really makes me uncomfortable that Horace is fishing his head in front of 200 people, or sometimes snoring, while I’m conducting music for the choir at the same service right beside the priest.

    Anyway, I’m also voicing my feelings because apparently Horace also doesn’t listen (or hear) my part.

  • Sweetest Mango

    Wakakkaa…sometimes when Eddie fell asleep during mass, I’d tickle him to keep him awake…….and I remember one time when he fell asleep, I pinched his belly, and he felt very painful but couldn’t yell out, and I knew that he won’t yell out during the mass, and I laughed at him, and we both ended up can’t stop laughing!! ^@^ Althought I know that wasn’t a good way to keep him awake, but well, I would try to do my part, and if he still fall asleep, then I’ll just leave it and see what will happen if one day I leave the church or switch my seat w/out waking him up!! haahahahaha!!! ^@^

  • I feel sorry for Eddie. It is basic human right to fall asleep in church.

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