上個月老婆不停嘔吐，害我以為她得了腸胃炎，去醫生檢查的結果，原來我明年四月便當父親。迎接新生命的來臨，有很多東西需要學習，這是我們夫婦的頭一胎，心情自然特別緊張。身邊有不少朋友己有小孩，加上自已阿媽三十多年前生過我，有很多有關生仔的資訊和經驗之談。太多資訊一次過消化不了，加上當中不少資料互相矛盾，也不知道應該如何取捨。所以始終還是看些講懷孕的專門書藉，讀些權威性的醫學知識充實自已才安心。

買了兩本英文書，朋友又送了本中文書，在三本懷孕書當中，這本「孕婦使用手冊」最適合作為第一本閱讀。這本書由記者和婦科醫生合著，文筆幽默有趣，但內容充實有用，配上家電說明書式的插圖，最適合我這個工程師讀者。因為心急想知到懷孕的各種知識，很快一口氣便讀完這書。陪老婆去看醫生時也會帶著，方便聽不明醫生說醫學術語時拿出來參考。這本書的長度剛剛好，另一本What to Expect有太多無用的參考資料。那些幾十萬分之一機會才中的先天性嬰兒疾病，讀多了只會自已嚇自已，真的不好彩中招才需要讀。中文書「圖解初次懷孕與生產88個常識」中的補身湯水和食物禁忌很有用，英文書不會有這些資料，鬼婆大肚甚至會狂食雪榚。不過台灣的醫療制度和北美不同，那些檢查的中文名看得我一頭霧水，醫學方便的資料還是要以英文書為準。

其實懷孕的知訊，全部都大同小異，網上也有不少免費資料，如whattoexpect.com。當中不外是三個妊娠期身體的轉變，胎兒的成長速度，有什麼產前檢查，選擇接生服務，購買嬰兒用品注意事項，生產當日去醫院的程序，如何自行緊急接生，出世後喂母乳的技巧等等。這本書最抵死的地方，是除了那些重要必需的基本資料外，還會加入一些無聊但好笑的資料，例如如何防止別人摸你的大肚腩，電視上看到的初生嬰兒與現實中的分別，父親不能錯過的產前檢查，讓過份緊張的父母輕鬆一下。

這本書是使用手冊系列叢書之一，在講生仔的「孕婦使用手冊」之前，有講結婚的「新娘新郎使用手冊」，出世後有「嬰兒使用手冊」，「小孩子使用手冊」和「青少年使用手冊」，一路伴著小朋友成長。因為我實在太喜歡這套書，除了之前講結婚的沒有用外，我已從Amazony訂了餘下幾本，好好裝備自已當一個好爸爸。

I know Indian discriminate against woman, but discrimination alone won’t explain the killing of baby girl.  Your son have to marry a woman when he grow up, if everyone only give birth to boy, where the wives come from?  It turn out there is a financial penalty of having baby girl.  In Indian tradition marriage, the parent of the bride has to give a large sum of money to the groom.  Some people even take out a loan so that their daughter can marry the guy they like.  Here is something does not make sense.  According to the law of supply and demand, there are not enough women for every men in India.  Women are short in supply and high in demand, their price should go up.  In a free market of getting marriage, the groom should pay the large sum to find the right bride.  In a long run, the Indian wedding tradition is due to change, nothing can defying the law of economics forever.

If I am an Indian parent, I rather my daughter remains daddy’s girl then paying a large sum to get her a husband.  Any guy asking money from the in-law are not suitable to be a good husband.  If the Indian wedding tradition is the cause of killing baby girls.  Forbidding the doctor telling the parent the sex of the baby only treat the symptoms, it is not fixing the problem.  Assume we have to work within the constraint of arranged marriage, maybe the government should setup an internet auction platform for match making and require all parents using the auction platform to arranged the marriage for their sons and daughters.  An open auction platform just like eBay will show the true market value of the bride.  Given the lack of women in India, the price signal should strong enough to reverse trend of killing baby girl.  There is also a plan B, the Indian government can simply legalize gay marriage.  For the 7 out of 100 poor men who can’t find a wife, they just marry another guy.